Friday, September 30, 2011

i'd started mentioning recently to many that i was 14 weeks pregnant with our third child. at a doctor's appointment last week we found out that i miscarried at 12 weeks. as common as miscarriage is, i never ever thought this would be something i'd experience. it's been a very sad time for jamie and me but we've felt a lot of blessings too. thanks for your love.

"Wherever you are, whatever your circumstances may be, you are not forgotten. No matter how dark your days may seem, no matter how insignificant you may feel, not matter how overshadowed you think you may be, your Heavenly Father has not forgotten you. In fact, He loves you with an infinite love...The love of God and the power of the restored gospel are redemptive and saving. If you will only allow His divine love into your life, it can dress any wound, heal any hurt, and soften any sorrow."

thanks President Uchtdorf.

40 comments:

cara. said...

love you dears. sad to hear this news. wishing you a healthy amount of grief and gentleness in this time. and reminding you that, in it's due time, reconciliation will come your way. my heart aches and hopes. <3

communikate. said...

oh, abby.

i'm so sorry to hear this.

i wish i had comforting words but i think you quoted president uchtdorf perfectly.

sending hugs and love your way.

Mandi said...

Abby, I remember how helpful and thoughtful you were when I had my second miscarriage in Orem. I hope you know that my prayers are with you and your family now.

Elena said...

i'm very sorry, abby. president uchtdorf couldn't put it any better. sending prayers your way.

susan said...

My heart goes out to you and Jamie. Wishing you the best as you get through this.

Brooke said...

i'm so, so sorry about that abby. i really do wish you the best. that is a great quote you posted and oh so true. i hope the message continues to bring you comfort during this hard time. :(

sarah marie. said...

oh abby i am so sorry! i am just sick for you. you're amazing to have such a great outlook. xoxo.

Reba said...

I'm so sorry, Abby. Sending positive thoughts your way. I'll plan on making lots of delicious treats just for you at our next dessert party, if y'all wanna come again.

Jourdan said...

Knowing that people care does matter. And even though it may be common, it doesn't make it any less painful or frustrating or lonely...on so many levels. I've also been dealing with the tidal waves of miscarriage for a long time and it's so so hard and so lonely.

The good thing is, good things do come around. I'm so sorry for your loss. I'll be thinking of you and your family.

Sarah said...

you are brave, ab. thinking of you.

Bon said...

so so sorry abs. love you guys.

kristen said...

so sorry.
president uctdorf has some pretty powerful words.

kelly said...

oh abby, so sorry to hear that. i'll be thinking about you. soak in conference weekend and let it all out.

Kelly said...

I'm so sorry for you guys Abby! I agree, President Uchtdorf's message was perfect and just what many of us needed. Prayers for you.

Michele said...

:( big hug

David and Shalynna said...

I love you, Abby. You are my idol. Thanks for your example of strength and faith. Send Jamie our love and support as well.

Auntie Ann said...

I can't say enough how sorry I am that you and your family are going through this. Heartbreak...you will be in my prayers.

Wright Bunch said...

Oh Abbie... I'm so sorry you have to go through this. And there is NOTHING I can say to make the hurt go away, but just know it does get easier. Over time the pain will subside, and peace will fill the emptiness. You will be in my prayers. Love you lady.

off switch said...

i'm so sorry abby and jamie. i love what president uchtdorf said, and i pray for you both. xo.

hanner said...

thanks for the beautiful quote. thinking of you.

Becky Filhart said...

awe. this is sad news. we think of you guys so often, hoping and wishing the best for you always:). lots of love~

carla thorup said...

Oh sweet Abby, I hope you feel surrounded by love and peace. Prayers for your family from ours.

Lissybug said...

Oh, Abby, I am sad to hear this news. I love you. You are such a wonderful mom, and this baby is so loved. It's spirit is with Grandpa. He'll take good care of him until you can be together again. I'm giving you a great big hug, and crying with you, too. :'(

Kent Kate & Afton said...

I am sorry Abby. Beautiful quote!

Bethany said...

This brought me to tears, especially remembering my own miscarriage and how hard it was for me. I do not wish that pain on anyone, least of all someone as special as you. I really love your quote. I could have used something like that 5 years ago. I, too, never imagined it happening to me. We will keep you in our prayers. You are loved!

remi said...

abby my heart hurts. I'm so sorry.

so here's to hurts to be healed, wounds to be dressed, and sorrows to be softened.

kelly mccaleb said...

i am so sad for you. i know that must hurt so bad. i am happy you know how to pray, and i am happy we know all things are for our experience and good, even the yucky ones. xo

angela hardison said...

oh abby. i'm so, so sorry. i can't imagine, even though it's something i worry about almost every day. hugs from afar, and prayers that you'll be comforted even more.

kate said...

Crap Abby. Just crap. I am so sorry...

MissKris said...

Abby I love reading your blog and I love you! I am so sorry and I know it must be tough but you are strong! I will also keep you and your family in my prayers.

Leslie said...

oh abby. i hope you know how much i adore you and your sweet family. not many things that people say can make it better, but that quote is amazing. the only talk i heard on saturday. love you so much and keeping you in my thoughts and my prayers.

MaryPosa said...

Oh darling, I am so very sorry. You are such a brave and strong woman, and have so many people who just love you and are thinking about you (even people you haven't met). We are so blessed to have such insightful leaders who can give us just the right words to let us know that we are loved and that we are not alone, just at the time we most need them.
Love you!

elizabeth said...

Miscarriage sucks. I don't know how else to say it (and trust me, I tried various words). I know it hurts, in your body and in your heart, and I wish I could bring you whatever kind of treat you like because that's the kind of thing that helps me feel better, which is probably why I'm kinda chunky. :) I do know, though, that God has a plan and that He loves me and He loves you. That helps a lot too. XO

Nancy said...

Oh Abby, I'm so sad to hear this! I know how hard it is to go through this, especially when you've easily had two children and don't expect it to ever happen to you. It doesn't matter how far along you were, the loss is still significant and sad. I love E. Uchtdorf too and hope that the conference talks this weekend brought you comfort and peace. You and Jamie have the most beautiful children and I'm sure there will be many more to come. Love you guys :)

Jenn Kirk said...

Abby, I'm sorry for your loss. I wish I had something meaningful to say, but all I can give is an e-"hug" and let you know that your faithfulness is always inspiring. xo

rubi said...

im so sorry!! i can't even imagine how hard this could be but i love how we can find comfort in quotes like that. sending lots of love and goodness your way.

Anonymous said...

Hi...Im a blog lurker. I found your blog through people that I know from Glendale 1st ward/ LPP ward. I was touched by your blog entry and also the message from President Uchdorf. I needed that today and it reminded me that in my recent darkest days my Heavenly Father was and is there for me. I have been accused of a crime I didnt commit. I have been homeless and gone through a lot of stuff and the only thing I have is my testimony. It has shown me miracle after miracle in the last month or so. They only reason I am putting this anonymous is I know a lot of your friends. I havent told anyone what I am going through. I am sorry for your loss and am amazed that you are able to turn it over to our Father in Heaven. I will pray for you. BTW, I met your mother yesterday. She is a neat lady!

teamBoo said...

wow. now i feel like a jerk for seeing this after the last comment i left :(

Its a great thing to share your hurts, though I am terribly sad for this news. Eternal families are the best comfort i will ever know. Much love friend.

wendy said...

love you guys!

whimsy said...

abby, i too, am really sorry. what a terrible thing. a few of my closest friends have been through this as well. so horrible. doesnt seem to make sense. but what pres uchtdorf says, is what does make sense. we are so lucky to have that.
you have mentioned nausea in more recent posts? does that mean something????
loves to you.